It becomes an amazing accomplishment when we as people reach a positive high in our lives. The feeling of having everything situated and keeping the negativity at bay gives us the strength that we need on a day to day basis. Getting lost in a fog of stress only clouds our mind and doesn’t leave any room for us to make any progress. Without that progress how are we expected to move forward and reach that euphoric peak to where we are able to breath and know that everything will be okay?
We as people I feel do get cautious to travel to that peak of comfort because we fear the fall or the push that could happen at any time. We choose not to take these risks because they tend to be alarming. But sometimes we have to risk the fall and be able to maybe prepare for a crash landing. However just because we may take the comfortable approach does not mean we are doomed to land on our face. We can end up reaching that ultimate high and not only feel comfortable to stay on top but also to be given an even more positive initiative to possibly take off and reach a higher destination.
We have to learn to stop placing limits on ourselves and the heights that we dream to reach. Believing that the sky is the absolute limit just doesn’t seem to satisfy anymore. The cold feet that we may get sometimes keeps us from reaching a greater outcome and at times we miss out on numerous opportunities because of this handicap. Each new day allows us to make that decision to whether we want to take on a new change in our lives and reach a higher peak or do we choose to remain in a cloudy atmospheric environment that does nothing but put us in a funk of negativity. This positivity will only make us better people in the long run and reaching that high altitude can become our greatest achievement. In the end I’m just saying….
I tend to draw a lot of inspiration from the music that I listen to in order to help me with my writings. This entry was inspired by a song lifted from Alicia Key’s most recent album “The Element Of Freedom” called “How It Feels To Fly”. The message of this song really brought about a positive perspective that I took to heart. So for those who haven’t heard the song you can take a listen below.
Does it make you happy to belittle your fellow peer? Do you see significance in the negativity that you may bring? We as human beings sometimes can posses some hateful qualities about ourselves but what do we really get out of the negativity? We are expected to grow and mature in this life and learn from the positive and negative experiences that are thrown our way. But, how is an individual suppose to do that when they constantly are tearing others down. Are we as people so insecure with ourselves that we can only build ourselves up by breaking down others?
We of course have to understand that not everyone is made to be our friend or even like us for that matter but I think what we as people can’t seem to comprehend to is why people make it their mission to put others down just because they may think that they are entitled to an opinion. People don’t realize that they are only spreading around the negativity that they my be consumed with. When people learn to let go of that negative burden we free ourselves of so much stress and drama that is brought into our own lives. Negativity eats away at us and does nothing but cause too much heartache.
Constantly being angry at the world and tearing our peers down will never get us anywhere in life. We instead have to learn to create a positive environment for ourselves and learn to not become our worst enemy or anyone else’s for that matter. This is one of the life lessons that we must learn and carry on. Having such a negative outlook and vibe will only makes us look like the fool and we are then only looked at as so small. In the end I’m just saying……
How do you know when you have found that one person that is perfect for you?
(This is written in response to someone’s facebook status. I just thought it would be a great topic to share with others.)
First, you have to define what perfect is to you. What qualities must a person possess, and in what quantity makes them perfect in your eyes? Then, look at your standards in this pursuit of perfection. Too low? Too high? This is when we start talking non-negotiable qualities, or the things you cannot do without in a “perfect person”. Sometimes I think we don’t truly know we’ve found a perfect person until they’re long gone. We come to a certain point in our growth and say “Damn, (insert name here) had everything I was looking for”.
Some people put too much thought into knowing if someone is the perfect person. I think it’s detrimental to sit and consider all the reasons why someone is “perfect”. Are you trying to convince yourself or what? Sometimes we just MAKE a person perfect for the sake of not being lonely (insert high divorce rates and baby mama/daddy drama here). You really have to just let it be and let things flow one day at a time. People show their true colors after time, and some people are perfect for a certain time in our lives. A person may be perfect for you in your 20s, but they’re not at all meant to be with you in your 30s.
But seriously, how do you know?: Trial and Error. Traditionally, that was the purpose of dating- to find the right one. I don’t think there’s a standard sign to know that you’ve found the perfect person. You just have to trust your feelings and be willing to accept things for what they really are and not what you want them to be. I think you can start your “perfect person candidate” analysis by looking at the work you put in, what you get out, and knowing if the means justifies the end. Look at different aspects of your friendship/relationship to see if things as a whole are mutual, and communicate with the other party. You can’t make them the one if they only want to be the homieloverfriend (I’m just sayin…). If you love this person, and the feelings are mutual, then I think that’s perfect enough. There are no worries as long as you are TRULY happy because in the end, it’s your world. Just chill out, enjoy life and don’t worry about whether they’re perfect or not- time will surely tell.
Is there ever a time in a relationship when you just want to say enough is enough? As people how much are we actually willing to take from the ones that we love? While in a relationship we tend to try and avoid that boiling point that our lovers can sometimes push us towards. Many of us learn to suppress our true emotions and never realize that holding it all in can cause major damage and stress to ourselves. There is a time where we have to learn to finally take a stand and let our loved ones know that what is on going right now is not okay.
It’s never healthy to have our feelings go unsaid and to never express what is truly on our minds. The key solution is always communication when letting our loved ones know how we feel about their certain actions. However we must also be careful when expressing our feelings to the ones that we care about. No one likes to be dictated nor do they want to be constantly told that what they are doing is wrong. You do have to come up with a way that not only lets you express what you want to say but also you have to be able to do it in a way where you are not made out to look like the bad guy.
We as people can only tolerate so much from one another but we must never let that toleration reach a point where it becomes unbearable for us. Letting our true feelings out and really saying what is on our minds can only benefit the relationship in the long run. How are we ever suppose to let our partners know what our real feelings are about the things they may do that we might not necessarily agree with? It’s time to step up to the plate before it becomes the last straw. However in the end I’m just saying…
Is being single such a bad thing in our young lives? Are we too focused or shall I say too desperate on having somebody to call a “lover”? I would be lying by saying that I don’t wish that I had someone to be my Valentine but, to be honest why do we as single people and maybe some couples as well harp on just one day out of the whole year? Why should Valentine’s day be defined as the only day to actually have or find love? Being a single person I guess I would be singing a different tune if I was coupled up but, I think this is an idea that all people whether single or in a relationship can relate to. Our love status or lack of one should not be defined on the basis of not having a significant other. Limiting ourselves and questioning why we don’t have a special someone at the moment does nothing for us but make the situation more depressing and stressful.
